Everyone must read THIS ARTICLE by Tyler Ward.
Busy is a state of mind, and not a state of being. Those who are really —that— busy don’t have time to talk about how “busy” they are. And I’m also tired of people imposing the “I know how busy you are” caption on me. I will tell you if I want to or don’t want to do something - or if I can or can’t for that matter. But I won’t mask what I want to do and don’t want to do with the “busy” excuse.
On another related note, I’d like to point out that the comments “You look tired” or “You don’t look so well” are not a complimentary comments or those of real concern or support. They simply draw attention to the commenter’s perception-based opinion of me based on how I physically appear to them. There are lots of things that can affect my physical appearance or my mood - I could be tired, yes. But I might alternatively be distracted, or composing music in my head, or planning my next project, or freezing cold (hello, east coast winter!), or I’ve just done a full month of concerts, or I’m mad at someone, or someone is mad at me, or any number of other things. Any of these could affect my physical appearance and have nothing to do with my level of tiredness or my general state of health.
I definitely think that those who make a big deal about “being so busy” all the time are hungry for approval, attention, accolades, gold stars, however you want to put it.
In the words of the songwriter Des’ree:
"The wise man is clever, seldom ever speaks a word. The foolish man keeps talking. Never is he heard."
That’s my cue to end this and get back to my life.